Julie Skywalker wrote:I totally understand. Except that it was a bombshell, because my parents have always kept us informed of the money troubles, so I don't quite know exactly how that is for you, but I do understand. I have a lot to worry about besides that too, and it can be really scary and stressful, but as long as there are people in your life who care about you and whom you care about, it will be livable. Sometimes it is hard to find those people, but if you have them, you will get through it ok.
After the past few years, I can definitely testify this. I'm pretty sure you're right. Problem is, not everyone has that key solution to getting through it all.
My family doesn't really have money troubles anymore, but there are always problems to face, no matter the financial situation. It's a simple fact of life: we always see a way to improve our situations, so we'll create problems even if they don't exist.
In my case, more often than not, the problem is reversed. My life is pretty easy by almost anyone's standards, but sometimes I find that everyone is busy with someone else, or off doing their own thing. That's typically the way it works.
I don't know how many times I've spent all my time working and worrying about school, and then when I'm ready to take a break and have a nice, relaxing chit-chat, there's no one around. Everyone is always busy, occupied, or completely uninterested, and I'm left to work things out on my own.
It isn't necessarily a bad thing, and those situations have helped to make me more independent, thoughtful, and insightful on my own.
But that's when things
really suck. That's also when it's best
not to think that way. If you realize that you're missing that one thing that would actually help, it only makes the situation worse. Add in the placebo effect, and you're really only screwing things up even farther by thinking like that.
And, besides, it's not like there aren't other ways to get through life. Starting a new hobby or finding a new interest can turn any bad time into a much more pleasant one.
There's more than one solution to solving any problem, certainly. While having friends and family help you through your problems is the preferable solution, it isn't the only way.
When people say "oh, you just need people in your life," and you know they're right, but you don't feel like you have it, it's kinda like a slap across the face. It's almost devaluating, in an odd way. It's odd because it shouldn't be that way, but it can be interpreted as such.
And again, I'm probably reading into this way too much, but I just needed to say that. When or if you have to face a tough time without anyone there to help you, it's a completely different situation. In that case, it will require a completely different outlook on life.
I'm not sure if that's what the situation is, in this case. But anyway, it's something to consider, at the very least.