Personal Issues Forum

[LionsAreKings]

^I think that that section, as well as the entire Lounge, should be hidden. I mean, right now random people can just go look at all the threads. And even the Member Photo Album

THEY WHAT?

[DGFone]

I realized that I somehow did not manage to post why I am against this idea, but here are my thoughts about it:

A lot of the drama going on right now comes from people saying "I feel bad" is one place or another in various forms. And what I see it that this topic will try to do is contain all that drama into on place which will hopefully also allow others to help.

What I am afraid will happen is A) Trolls will have a prime area to look for prey at, B) The drama will only increase once people will start explaining why they feel bad, and C) The drama will not be contained and spill over back into the rest of MLK, only this time it will be worse because of point B.

I would love to be proven wrong, but I am afraid that it will not happen.

[FlipMode]

You are really misunderstanding this.

Okay let me give some examples, last year or so ago I made a thread explaining that I would be away for a few weeks while my mum was in hospital with cancer, not thinking anyone cared and that it wouldnt be worth checking, when I came back lots of people, some who I didn't even know had posted showing their support. This new area would be a good place for people who feel that no one cares about how they feel to open up and realise that actually people do, we jus don't have any where to post it at the moment.

It's not a place to [censored] about other people, it's a place to get help and advice or even just well wishes on personal problems, whether they are something online or IRL

[WildSimba]

I realized that I somehow did not manage to post why I am against this idea, but here are my thoughts about it:

A lot of the drama going on right now comes from people saying "I feel bad" is one place or another in various forms. And what I see it that this topic will try to do is contain all that drama into on place which will hopefully also allow others to help.

What I am afraid will happen is A) Trolls will have a prime area to look for prey at, B) The drama will only increase once people will start explaining why they feel bad, and C) The drama will not be contained and spill over back into the rest of MLK, only this time it will be worse because of point B.

I would love to be proven wrong, but I am afraid that it will not happen.

The mods would just do their job, and clean up the forum accordingly. If people don't try and start drama, or keep things out that they think will cause drama, then it won't happen. It's not like we'd be allowing controversial topics. Any topic in this forum would still have to abide by the forum rules. And drama happens on here, but the mods almost always act against it accordingly. Unless we don't see it, but you also gotta figure that member's are supposed to be reporting things. That doesn't happen often. But if we all did our part, the forum would run more smooth in general.

So we can definitely give this a try I say, and if drama does start to arise (which I'm pretty positive it's not going to), then the mods can deal with it accordingly.

[Panda-chan]

MLK Therapy Section? lol
I think this is a good idea, although I do see the potential for an overflow of drama, as DGFone mentioned. For example, if a member posts a topic that gets little to no replies, they might feel like no one cares. On the other hand, this will probably make the community alot closer and more friendly. But yeah, I think it's at least worth a shot. I for one would love to avoid the whine topics whenever I can, and this will hopefully contain them where others don't have to see them.

[AdAstrα]

I think this is a great idea

[Awali]

DGF has a good point, and the mods would have to be on their game, which they normally are. I still think this would work out quite well.

[KopsTheTerminator]

What about this?



It seemed funny to me.

LOL'd

Meh, I doubt this will cause that much drama. You can always just forbid posting about forum drama (or at least forbid the OP from giving out names), and I doubt the trolls would be much of a problem if the board is checked by mods regularly.

Also, I agree with making the board invisible to guests. Private info should remain within the board.

[cleargreenwater]

You can always just forbid posting about forum drama (or at least forbid the OP from giving out names), and I doubt the trolls would be much of a problem if the board is checked by mods regularly.

On the Lilymud one at least, it was ABSOLUTELY forbidden to use the forum to address forum related issues between members. Utterly forbidden, instant thread lock & delete, if this helps clarify the concept to anyone.


As for it generating hang-ups if no-one replies--I think it's a cost/benefit thing. On the one hand, such a fate might befall the occassional poster (quite a few of us probably won't be frequenting the section,) but on the other it gives the opportunity for people with similar concerns to troubleshoot and, in effect, grow up with each other as they work on Real Life together. And thats a wonderful bond for a forum to support.


FWIW, this is the only forum I've ever been on that does NOT have such a section, and not only out of Lion King ones either. And curiously this is the only forum where people angst so regularly about not being heard/lost in a crowd. There IS a correlation.

[Vector]

This might be a good idea.