What are you thinking RIGHT NOW?

[Carl]

I need coffee somethin' fierce. Two hours is not enough sleep.

[FlipMode]

Regs is right. You do have to let yourself grieve. While you're away from your computer, you can PM me, or I'll PM you.

Its not so much time to grieve as it is more giving yourself time to reflect and come up with a satisfying answer.
Think about this for a moment; have you ever been listening to music before you have to leave for work or college and thought "Okay I'll leave after this song finishes."? Its not just because you happen to like that song, its because the completion / closure principle which is wired into a lot of people's brains says that the pieces to a puzzle have to be complete.

Like if you're building a Lego set and there is one piece missing somewhere.... I will tip the house upside down to find it and if I still can't I will literally drive down to the Lego store and get the one piece I need, not because I'm OCD (that's not how OCD works, its just been misconstrued over the years by media that people think that's how it works) its because there is no satisfying resolution until every piece is in the correct location, its actually a plot point in The Lego Movie in fact.

Another example is what I've been doing recently, training for a marathon, I know that my training plan says I have to run say, 12 miles, so until my Garmin watch says that I have finished all twelve of those miles, I can't stop at any number less than that, even if I have to walk parts of it, I won't stop until the numbers match.

So when someone breaks up with you and you don't see it coming, you think about it for months after because your brain needs to have a conclusion. And the fact is sometimes its just simply because the other person isn't feeling it anymore, they may not even know themselves exactly why they did it. This causes our brain to think about the breakup for months, talking to friends, watching videos, doing everything that we can to find an answer. So the best thing to do is to give yourself some time to think about it and come up with an answer that makes sense to you. Once you do, you'll be able to move on properly and find the happiness you deserve elsewhere.

[KopsTheTerminator]

I'm just sitting here watching Tri and vainly hoping they somehow pick up that Dark Ocean arc they started then completely scrapped out of existence. YOU CAN'T JUST WRITE A GOOD FEW EPISODES ABOUT A DAMN CTHULHU HORROR WORLD THEN DROP THE SUBJECT ENTIRELY WHY WAS SEASON 2 SO WEIRDLY WRITTEN.

[Shadowfax]

^ I remember that. I was really intrigued to see what they did with that arc, aswell as what that huuuge monster/Digimon was at the end of that episode, so yeh... pretty annoyed also with that one. I'd love to watch Tri someday.

Speaking of Digimon, I picked season 1 up on DVD today! Will be giving that a re-watch next month ^-^

[Carl]

[lots of stuff]

That is true, but sometimes finding a satisfying answer doesn't happen, or can take a very long time, and it becomes more a matter of just accepting things for what they are. I still haven't found an explanation that makes sense for the same thing happening to me last year. I just had to realize how I'm better off now and stop trying to get to the "why" of it and just accept that sometimes things don't work out. It would be better if there was some kind of true closure, but eh, is what it is sometimes.

[Queen Elsa]

Why would anyone ever want to leave Neverland? I personally wish I could live there forever.

[Si-Amber]

I hope I get news soon. Hopefully good news, but mostly I just want to know, so I don't go through what I went through with my old cat.

[Marizzle]

I knew it wouldn't take long until that question came up. If she thinks I didn't notice the "despair", she's wrong.

[Shadowfax]

Keeping fingers crossed for good news Si <3

Man, I really, really don't want to go back to work tomorrow I've had such a lovely couple of days with my little girl and going back seems so depressing. I know I only work three and a half days, but still... feel I am so robbed of time with my baby at the moment and it's spent working with the idiotic public who just irritate me and moan about the most pathetic little things. *Le sigh* #workingmumjoys.

[Marizzle]

What's up with the whole "neediness"? I hate that and clingy people, she knows that.