What are you thinking RIGHT NOW?

[Si-Amber]

Made the most of the beautiful sunshine with a walk around my childhood village and the reservoir and nature reserve there. Back to work and rainy weather tomorrow.

Also YES!!! She has finally been sacked, about time!

[linnea]

I do nothing XD

[Shadowfax]

Woo, I can still draw TLK art xD
Sort of.

[UncoordinatedPisces]

Still pissed that UKIP have so much support, all over one issue as well - Conservatives in disguise. Also, I hope people don't vote to leave Europe just on the basis of immigration, there's so much more to consider. FYI this is just me venting and not an attack on anyone, and I still don't know which way I'll vote in June.

[Shadowfax]

^ I don't really know enough about the EU and whether or not it's best to leave or stay. So as always, I will probably just keep out of it

[Elton John]

The anger is gone. Thank you leviara.

[KopsTheTerminator]

Christ, why is it so warm?

[FireAndSun]

This has been such a cold spring. It sucks.

[linnea]

I wanna see my gf soon , I miss her so much

[Carl]

I'll give them this: it's a step up from my exes always calling me "baby". Of all the pet names, you've got "darling", you've got "honey", you've got "sweety", nope... Felt the need to default to baby 99% of the time.

And I honestly get the feeling that something sexist was going on there. I'm very brash and abrasive, I do not act how one would expect a typical female to act. I think they could sense that I am very masculine, and felt that their own fragile masculinity was at risk. "Baby" became a way of belittling me so they could be reassured that they were the dominant one. That they were the man. It was probably a subconscious thing and not an active choice, but still. This theory of mine is not without evidence, either - I cut my hair short, shortly after breaking up with one, and was trying to stay friends with him. Sent him a picture of my new haircut and he said "You look like a boy" in this tone that implied that was a bad thing. (Needless to say, we didn't remain friends for long.) Another ex at one point said I wasn't allowed to have shorter hair than he was. He later complained that he felt like I was the man in the relationship and he was the woman, with again, a tone implying this to be a bad thing (I pretended to be sympathetic but I secretly agreed in all honesty). Men beware, I am the greatest threat to masculinity the world has ever known.

Or maybe I'm just overthinking it. Either way, am I the only one who finds it creepy that you're likening the person you're attracted to to an infant?

^ You might be overthinking it a little bit, but I do generally stay away from people who use 'pet names' like that regardless of gender. It doesn't take a genius to realise that they're actually creepy and belittling as all hell on the receiving end. Creep central.

I don't mind pet names, as long as they are used in ways that aren't... how do I phrase this? You know those people who will be dismissive, and call their partner (or someone they are interested in) "babe" while completely disrespecting them? That I don't like. And I think if you're going to use pet names, they're best tailored to the person in question, if that makes sense? For example my ex and I had a forum wedding thing as a joke at one point, so we later called one another "wifey" and "hubby." In my experience, "baby" and the like have been rare, and usually used in attempts at being comforting, but I can definitely see where you two are coming from in regards to it. It is a bit strange and I've always wondered myself why people used that word for their romantic partners. It's kind of automatic for a lot of people these days, I think.

I get called "lovely" and "cute" a fair bit (in a completely non-romantic way). I take it as a compliment. I'd much rather that than be called "hot" or "sexy" which are shallow and related to sexual attractiveness.

I'm sure people mean it in a harmless way when they say these things to me, too, but it's just super awkward for me. I'm not good with that kind of thing, and the way they say it almost always seems to imply femininity (though that could just be my self-loathing twisting what they mean), which bugs the crap out of me as I detest my own femininity. I don't know how to respond to such remarks at all, and people I barely know keep being the ones to say those things, which makes it even more awkward for me because I already don't know how to talk to people I barely know. I wouldn't want to be called "hot" or "sexy" either, though. I'd just much rather be complimented on a skill or something. Of course overall I'd rather just have someone listen to me without changing the subject or being dismissive of my views/feelings, because all of the people who call me "cute" or "lovely" refuse to do that, and so we never have any real conversations at all, and that makes it feel shallow and demeaning for them to use these terms in reference to me.

I guess what I'm getting at is, I'd rather people value my mind than just say things like this. I'm just not whatever these people think I am, and I'm certainly not what they see at first glance. People need to see the whole monster before they start saying it's cute or lovely.