Advice needed! =S

[Deeri]

Aw, that really does suck Amanda.
I am sorry that you have been subjected to this person and his antics.
You have done nothing wrong, so don't feel as though you have, it's obvious that this person is a harrassing you.

These sort of problems do not just ''blow over'' and disappear. They can continue unless there can be a stop to it.

As for advice, I am unsure how to procede but you have to first ask yourself whether or not you want to continue the friendship with him. He may not be a bad person but he is harrassing you to be friends with you. I've been in a sort of similar situation, which I don't feel comfortable enough to go into detail. I made one big mistake that the person who when I explained how I felt just wouldn't accept the ''no'' for the answer.

He has the problem Amanda, not you. You are not overreacting, it is not your fault that he can't take the ''no''.

These things just do not blow over. Unless there is a way to remedy and move on from the situation it will only steadily get worse (as what happened with me). You need support, not people flaming you because of this guy's word over yours. He thinks he is the victim in all of this...there are no victims...he put himself into this situation, he has caused this situation, he has spreaded rumors about you and perhaps manipulated people into thinking harshly about you.

You have people on here who know that you are not like that, you have people on here who have been through similar situations. My advice is you should block Simbafan, cease all contact with him. If he sends you a PM/Email or whatever..do not respond. If you respond you are giving him exactly what he wants.

As for the other person, I recommend that you put aside the fear of rejection which I know that it is hard, but you have to do this...you know that you have done nothing wrong and you have nothing to fear, and explain to him the situation and your actions. If he understands then that's great. If not, then you will have to think if you want to have him as a friend or not.

When I had the problem, he got a friend to PM me to change my mind. Whilst I told the person my reasons and he accepted them. I no longer feel that I can trust that person again. He should never have gotten involved as it was between me and the ''friend''.

Same goes for your situation. You can ask for advice, we can give but if someone gets involved on behalf of listening to the other and not hearing the other person's reasons aswell..then that is just wrong and he shouldn't get involved (I am sorry to say).

Hope this advice is okay. Remember Amanda, it is not your fault and I hope whatever you decide that this problem can be over.

[Simbaholikov]

Huh? I never sent you a PM, unless its another Simbaholic you're talking about
But anyways, you're not overreacting, and I hope things will get better soon.

[SimbasMate]

[quote="Simbaholic"]Huh? I never sent you a PM, unless its another Simbaholic you're talking about
But anyways, you're not overreacting, and I hope things will get better soon. [/quote]


Lol. She is talking about some dude on YouTube

[Panda-chan]

Thanks guys I knew I could count on you for advice. =3 *hugs u all*
Hmm... seems everyone is pretty much divided on this. Should I ignore him completely, or ask for forgiveness? I guess I'll take one more stab at seeking forgiveness. After all, he's been my friend for a long time and I want to see if I can get his friendship back. I'll have a talk with him through e-mail explaining my situation and problems and if he forgives me, then that's great ^^. If he doesn't, I'll cut off all contact with him and ignore all his e-mails and threats from now on. But Deeri's right, even if he does decide to forgive me, I'm never going to trust him the same way I once did. My friends have had similar problems with this guy and although they say a nice person at heart, I doubt a friend would take a fight this far.
I realize it was a mistake to hope this problem would magically disappear overnight, but I'm determined to fix it now it any way I can.

[KopsTheTerminator]

Lol, you're a really kind panda then. :)

I'd say just go for it and ask for forgiveness. If they're real friends then they should forgive you. If not, then they're not that great of a friend, I guess. (No offence intended!)

That person created me the same problem with the PMing but I ignored them and they stopped.

Anyway, I hope you get this sorted out Amanda. :)

[thelionpride556]

This is technically my fault. If I had never told him what you said, this would have never happened.

I guess I might as well take the blame for all this.

Actually, It's mine, Amanda's, and SF92's fault.

It's mine because I told him in the first place.

It's Amanda's because she blocked him.

And it's SF92's because he's the one who got furious and crap anyways. T_T

[Deeri]

[quote]Should I ignore him completely, or ask for forgiveness? I guess I'll take one more stab at seeking forgiveness. After all, he's been my friend for a long time and I want to see if I can get his friendship back. I'll have a talk with him through e-mail explaining my situation and problems and if he forgives me, then that's great ^^. If he doesn't, I'll cut off all contact with him and ignore all his e-mails and threats from now on.[/quote]

Aye, that would be the best option if you are referring to the other person who has gotten himself involved in the issue.
Hopefully if he is a friend..and a kind person..then he will forgive you.

Again, hope it works out well in the end Amanda.

[quote]This is technically my fault. If I had never told him what you said, this would have never happened.

I guess I might as well take the blame for all this.

Actually, It's mine, Amanda's, and SF92's fault.

It's mine because I told him in the first place.

It's Amanda's because she blocked him.

And it's SF92's because he's the one who got furious and crap anyways. T_T[/quote]

Not so. In this matter it is no ones fault...really if you are looking for fault..it would be Simbafan92. He has caused this. Whether he can see it or not. I do not know what your part in this was (because you told him in the first place?) but it wasn't really your fault anymore than it was Amanda's because she decided to block him.

It's his...he made the decisions..and at the end of the day..he has caused this by those decisions to continue it. Simple.

So don't feel yourself at fault here.

[Panda-chan]

[quote="thelionpride556"]This is technically my fault. If I had never told him what you said, this would have never happened.

I guess I might as well take the blame for all this.

Actually, It's mine, Amanda's, and SF92's fault.

It's mine because I told him in the first place.

It's Amanda's because she blocked him.

And it's SF92's because he's the one who got furious and crap anyways. T_T

[/quote]
No no no tlp! You have nothing to do with the fight! This is strictly between me and simbafan92. Don't blame yourself for anything. You were simply a go-between between me and simbafan, and you were only told to deliver messages from one person to the other. In fact, it's more my fault for involving you in my problems. I'm sorry.
But Deeri's right once again lol. We shouldn't go around pointing fingers at each other. Tonight I'm gonna e-mail him the truth, and it'll be up to him whether he accepts my apology or not. *crosses fingers*

[Deeri]

[quote]But Deeri's right once again lol. We shouldn't go around pointing fingers at each other. Tonight I'm gonna e-mail him the truth, and it'll be up to him whether he accepts my apology or not. *crosses fingers*[/quote]


Well I have been told I'm a ''wise old owl''.

To be serious; I'm only right because I've been through a similar situation so I've learnt a few things.

It's hard acting as a go between when you have links to both people in this sort of situation.

Good luck Amanda with the email. I hope it works out *crosses fingers too*...if not then...really this person..isn't worth it..

[thanigraphics]

First of all, that guy doesn't sound like a good friend.
I know how it feels to lose good friends, too bad I had way too much experience with that.
If you just ignore the mails, just delete them unread, and don't pay ANY attention to that dude, he'll might forget you and goes on with his life.
And so should you, really..... you deserve better people than an obsessed stalker like that guy.
I also have a feeling, from your describtion, that this dude may have some mental issues....