No... It Can't Be...

[KovusTrueMate]

Well, I was at the school dance. After about a half hour I saw Gabe (You all remember him right? Or at least some of you.) and two lionesses, Syndie and Andrea, talking to him which is not a regular occurrence. I was like, "What in the name of Mohatu are they talking about?" and I saw Sydnie hug Gabe. And I was like, "Oh no. No, no no no! Not AGAIN! No... I'm not letting this happen again. Not again."
Now I am worried to an unhealthy extent!

[WildSimba]

Well, if he's done this before, I suggest you stay away from Dating/Relationships with him.

[thanigraphics]

What an *insert unappropriate word*
People like him need therapy. I'd seriously break his jaw if he was my boyfriend (I smacked a boy full in the face once for a thing like that) The only thing to do is get over that a-hole and find a man who's worth you. This seems to be a boy, not a man.
A man knows how to spel the word "respect", a boy doesn't even know it's meaning.

[Azdgari]

Woah, woah, woah, woah! Settle down! You're flipping out because your boyfriend hugged another girl?
Frankly if I was in a relationship with someone who forbade me from hugging other girls, I'd get a new one. Hugging is just a sign of friendship. I literally hug everyone in sight. You're jumping to some major, major conclusions, and by doing it, (no offense meant by this), you are the one who is doing something wrong, not him. If your relationship is going to succeed, you're going to need the confidence to see him hug someone without assuming he's cheating on you. Really, you're jumping to ridiculous conclusions here over what sounds to me like nothing at all.

[thanigraphics]

Well, to be honest.. I wouldn´t like to have my boyfriend to hug other girls as well. It´s not that I don´t trust him, but it makes me feel unconfortable and nervous, I don´t know why exactly, but I get a bad feeling if he does it, and that´s why I don´t like him doing it.
At the other side, if thani hugs kitten84 (she´s one of our best friends in real life) I don´t have that problem, but that´s cuz she´s also one of my closest friends. But if he´s close or hugging with a female that I don´t know or like, I flip out too.... and even though it might be ’unhealthy’, it´s a feeling that gets over me. So I´d suggest never to dump anyone if he or she has problems with you hugging anyone. Just talk about it and give your partner a chance to explain his/her problem and HELP each other.

That's what Thani and I do. I used to be a very panicky jealous anxious person when I met Thani. He kinda "healed" me from that, but the hugging thing is still an issue for me. And in a relationship, one's problem is both's problem.

[KopsTheTerminator]

Guys, it's not her boyfriend. It's her crush.

Ehh, sorry for that.

[thanigraphics]

oh, ok lol I thought it was her boyfriend. Must have overread that.

[KovusTrueMate]

Woah, woah, woah, woah! Settle down! You're flipping out because your boyfriend hugged another girl?
Frankly if I was in a relationship with someone who forbade me from hugging other girls, I'd get a new one. Hugging is just a sign of friendship. I literally hug everyone in sight. You're jumping to some major, major conclusions, and by doing it, (no offense meant by this), you are the one who is doing something wrong, not him. If your relationship is going to succeed, you're going to need the confidence to see him hug someone without assuming he's cheating on you. Really, you're jumping to ridiculous conclusions here over what sounds to me like nothing at all.

Well, first of all, he isn't my boyfriend. Wish he was. And technically I didn't forbid him, it just seriously disturbs my state of mind known as Hakuna Matata. I jump to conclusions all the time and I'll ask him about it today. Get HIS side of the story maybe? But if his side of the story supports my worries then I will not be nice to him. Hint: I have a very short temper so these kinds of things set me off easily. And if it happens again, oh man. It is on like Donkey Kong!

[MalibuTrashDog]

You need to calm down, especially if he's not your boyfriend. You have no control over what he does then. You'll push him farther away because he'll see that if you're acting this crazy now when you're just friends, imagine how psycho you'd be if you were actually dating. It's also a good idea to observe the types of hugs he does. There is a difference between a friendly hug, and an I love you hug.

I get jealous of my best friend too, but I know he truly cares for me. When he hugs others it's always quick and friendly. When he hugs me he gets as close as possible and doesn't want to let go, he sits there and lingers. If it were me I would prefer he didn't hug anyone except me, but I don't say anything because I can clearly see those hugs with other people don't mean anything to him. =)

[SnowyCheetah]

If he's not your boyfriend, then stop acting as if he were. Also, even if he were, you can't (and shouldn't try to) decide what he can or can't do. If I had a girlfriend who got all nervous, or even mad, if I hugged another girl, I'd dump her I know a girl whose boyfriend is even trying to decide what friends she can and can't hang out with, which is the same type of behavior you're exhibiting here. You need to cool down. If you don't think you can trust him, then you shouldn't be after him. Trust (lots of it) is one major part of relationships.