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Advice needed! =S

Postby Panda-chan » January 31st, 2010, 5:54 am

Hey everyone, I need your advice on something that's been bothering me for almost two weeks now. I'm not sure how to handle this and I could really do with some help! Only nice replies please. :oops:
I'm sure many of you have heard of simbafan92. He makes AMV's on Youtube, and he was even briefly a member of this site. Anyway, I got into a fight with him a few weeks back. I used to keep getting annoying pms and invites from him since September, all of them either asking me "how are you amanda", "what are u doing amanda =)" or "come to our youtube stream plz". At first I used to reply with nice comments and would frequently visit his stream whenever he asked me to. However, over time I got busy and I started visiting less and less. The less I visited, it seemed, the more he would bug me to go there. All this time, he would still keep sending me countless annoying pms! :roll: Once he joined MLK, he started pestering me even further. Finally, I snapped. I complained to some members in the chatbox about how he was always getting on my nerves, and they advised me to block him completely.
Big mistake. When simbafan92 found out I had blocked him, he sent a message through tlp asking if I had done it on purpose. I replied with the simple comment "I did." This obviously got him furious and, through tlp, I found out that this was his reaction:
[quote="simbafan92"]fine tell her if she thinks that then we're no longer friends. tell her i thought we were best friends but if you wanna think badly about me then don't come near me again[/quote]
What should I do? Am I overreacting? :sad: I later noticed that simbafan92 had removed me from his friends list, banned me from his stream, and deleted me from his subscribers. What's worse, he has apparently started spreading rumors about me to other members... I don't know what to do. A week after our fight, I asked ML for advice but he told me not to worry about it and that things would eventually "blow over". They haven't. In fact, two weeks later, they've actually gotten worse. Just now I got a pm from Simbaholic telling me to remove the link to "his" stream from my channel. And I've been getting hate mail from him for some time now. I know I should be apologizing but I'm afraid he might reject me. And I don't even know where to begin. It seems he's never going to forgive me.
What should I do? Help me out! He's been my friend for a long time now and I don't want to lose him over something stupid like this... :ehh2:
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Re: Advice needed! =S

Postby Mike » January 31st, 2010, 5:55 am

I think problems about other people should be sorted out without the entire forum's advice :\ sorry.
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Re: Advice needed! =S

Postby Panda-chan » January 31st, 2010, 6:05 am

Umm... this place is for getting advice on personal problems isn't it? Other people have been doing it too. >.>
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Re: Advice needed! =S

Postby Neon » January 31st, 2010, 6:14 am

Hey Amanda I made such mistakes before. I really cannot say how to help because the conclusion of my scenario was rather violent.
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Re: Advice needed! =S

Postby LadyAnette » January 31st, 2010, 6:21 am

Gosh, I'm sorry about this! I don't really know what to say...I'm not too good at giving advice. But I'd at least try saying,

'I'm sorry that I got angry at you. I was just annoyed because you keep pm'ing me about your YT place. I ask for your forgiveness and please stop giving me hate mail.'

Maybe? Or put in a smiley between there? See what he thinks. Don't be afraid to tell him how you feel! :)
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Re: Advice needed! =S

Postby SimbasMate » January 31st, 2010, 6:23 am

Check your PM box for my advice, Panda! :)
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Re: Advice needed! =S

Postby Moka » January 31st, 2010, 7:02 am

Things never just "blow over". You can't just ignore problems and hope they go away.

Seems to me like simbafan92 is pretty much harassing you into being his friend. My advice would be to stay away from people like this...but if you feel like you need to remedy the relationship all it takes is for you to talk to simbafan92. Tell him what's on your mind and tell him your situation.
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Re: Advice needed! =S

Postby Neon » January 31st, 2010, 7:49 am

Or I you can tell me where SimbaFan is and I will have a 'talk' with him.
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Re: Advice needed! =S

Postby PhyscoSimba » January 31st, 2010, 9:45 am

I honestly think that you should ignore him. It may seem harsh, but he put himself in that situation because he never left you alone. You're not overreacting, you're doing the same thing that I would do if I were in your situation. It sounds to me like he was harassing you to be "friends" with him, I don't give people like that second chances. If they start annoying me or harassing me, I block them plain and simple. Although in the end it's up to you, do what YOU think is best. :)
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Re: Advice needed! =S

Postby Simba93 » January 31st, 2010, 2:17 pm

But if you don't want to lose him as a friend, then you should not ignore him.
That would makes everything worse.
You should just talk to him again.

That's my opinion.
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