I need to vent

[WildSimba]

I know there's been a lot of venting topics in the past while, but I truely feel, that I need to get this off of my chest. It's a subject I've always been to nerve wrecked about, and have never had the courage to get it off of my chest to someone really.

My mom is really nice, to start off. She encourages what I do, and will even encourage the music I listen too, even if it's something bad. This is just the good kind of a relationship we have with eachother, where we're not constantly throwing things at eachother, or fighting.

But my dad... is a person of mention here. I know a lot of people have problems with their dad's, mainly due to the fact that dads are always naturally stuck-up people. But my dad is a whole different story. Yes, he's a naturally stuck-up person, and constantly likes to go by the king of the house, even though, no one thinks this but him. My brother is 26, so he's old enough to where he doesn't need a so called "king" too watch over him and give me rules. My sister is 22, but she's moved out with her boyfriend, which, if you don't know, is a character all on his own.

But my dad, tends too be a hypocrite a lot. If I point out that he is a hypocrite too him, then he'll get mad, and start to yell in my face. But he is, he'll tell me not to do something, but then he'll turn right around and do it. Example? Well, he'll tell me to get off the computer, because I've been on for quite a bit, and ban me sometimes even for this, when he's on an off day, which he seems to have a lot. But then, he'll turn right around... and get on computer for the same ammount of time, and sometimes, even longer! He then tells me that it's none of my buiseness what he does, but if it's that way, then why is it any matter to him, what I do? This just bugs me so much.

Then, the name calling. First off, he think I'm lazy, even though he isn't in work right now, and has to rely on "cleaning the house", so people can't say he's lazy. But I am not. First off, I go to school, 5 out of the 7 days of the week, 6 hours out of a 24 hour day, and, I'm passing right now. He gets mad when I don't like jump with joy when I do a chore or something, and don't do it instantly. I am a teenager, if he hasn't realized this! I do have other things I am doing. Sometimes my first priority is not to get up instantly, and do a chore. He'll usually get me, right in the middle of listening to a song too, and I do need time to pause this, and click out of what I'm doing, so everyone doesn't look at what I am saying. This is mainly a curdosy thing, because I do curse on myspace, and stuff like that, and I don't feel like everyone knowing every conversation I ever have.

Then he'll proceed to call me a Lazy S.O.B. and crap like that, and even when my mom tries to defend me, he'll ignore everything she says. He just isn't safe feeling wrong or something, I don't know. But he's a very ignorite person. It's very annoying too.

There are so many things I can say, more, but I feel this describes it enough for now. I just needed to vent, before I blew my tops off on someone.

[SimbasMate]

Your dad kind of sounds like a female dog to me. No offence. lol It seems as if you are only minding your own business, yet he has to make a problem out of it. It isn't fair to you, what he is doing! I mean you're 15 for crying out loud! I'm sure he was 15 at once too. Interogating you by the computer is just out of the question. He is like immitating you, and I know that anyone can find that very annoying.

As for just yelling in your face, he is just reacting to what you are saying. My advice for this is to not say anything, it may be hard, but it just gives him something to yell about. Because he has something he can react to.

And last, for not getting up for a chore right away, is normal for us teenagers! We're quite the lazy ones. lol Anyways, you should have atleast a few minutes to transition. I know when I have to go to something, I always need to finish up what I am doing, beforehand so I can stay cool. I don't blame you, I mean he is treating you like a robot, and you are not. You're his son, and a human being. He can't command you to do something, and expect you to do it right away!



I hope everything gets better for you, and I hope this helps.

[Baya]

Welcome to the world of parentals. My dad is EXACTLY the same. He'll tell me to do things like "Pay attention! Don't screw up when you are doing a job!"

Yesterday he was attempting to clean behind the treadmill, and somehow he broke it. He then makes ME fix it, and I just know later on he's going to lecture me about doing my job right or not at all.

If anything I'd just say he's insecure about himself, and it helps him tell off someone about the exact same quality. That's actually why people call you names, or notice a bad aspect about you. It's because they've been called that before, and because they see the same quality in themselves. Don't worry so much about it, one day you'll be grown up, and he'll be waiting at his phone for you to call lol.