What are you thinking RIGHT NOW?

[Marizzle]

Another reason why I prefer typing rather than actually speaking: I don't stumble on words.

Ironically, when I was trying to record my Q&A video, I said this in order to justify my "uh..." and how often I forget or stumble on words. Guess we're on the same boat here.

[Squeely]

It's also one of the things that makes me feel like I oughtn't ever let what I deal with bother me, much less complain about it.

Just because my problems are arguably worse, doesn't mean your problems aren't valid. I absolutely loathe the whole "others have it worse than you" mentality, because I've seen it used to invalidate people's problems. This one time, my friend Alejandro posted on his Facebook about how he was depressed because he and his parents got in this big fight that resulted in them throwing his clothes out on the lawn. His "friend" then went on this long rant about how Alejandro shouldn't feel sad because at least he had a place to stay Like no, having a roof over his head isn't going to magically dissolve his issues with his parents or cure his depression.

It would be like if I broke my arm, went to the doctor and they said "no, we're not going to give you treatment because at least you didn't break your neck!"

This isn't a knock against you, Carl, it's more I have a personal hatred for such sentiments. Your problems are valid, and you have every right to complain about them.

[Marizzle]

^Nice point made there! I agree with you and have nothing to add to your post...you've said it all.
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Well, it's time for bed...this headache won't get any better if I insist in staying up.

[The Spirit of Life]

One more day till I get a 17 day break

[Carl]

Just because my problems are arguably worse, doesn't mean your problems aren't valid. I absolutely loathe the whole "others have it worse than you" mentality, because I've seen it used to invalidate people's problems. This one time, my friend Alejandro posted on his Facebook about how he was depressed because he and his parents got in this big fight that resulted in them throwing his clothes out on the lawn. His "friend" then went on this long rant about how Alejandro shouldn't feel sad because at least he had a place to stay Like no, having a roof over his head isn't going to magically dissolve his issues with his parents or cure his depression.

It would be like if I broke my arm, went to the doctor and they said "no, we're not going to give you treatment because at least you didn't break your neck!"

This isn't a knock against you, Carl, it's more I have a personal hatred for such sentiments. Your problems are valid, and you have every right to complain about them.

i wrote you a book: show

I know what you mean, and I agree with you. I hate that stuff too. The whole thing is ridiculous because people are all different for one thing, and because everyone does have a right to feel bad if something bad happens to them.

I just don't tend to apply said logic to myself. People always make a fuss about those who are making things up, and I know how absolutely ludicrous the things I deal with sound, so I just tend to assume people think I'm exaggerating or making stuff up because I so rarely have anything positive to talk about. A lot of times people think I'm complaining or getting angry just because I say something negative that to me is just a fact of life; it's like I can't talk about things at all without people thinking I'm looking for attention or trying to be contrary for the sake of it or just trying to start a fight. It sometimes makes me wonder if I'm making a big deal about nothing. I always feel guilty for bothering others with my crap too, because well... I dunno I just feel like I should be able to handle it all without having to bring down or worry people. Especially since I accidentally cause drama and ruin things just for telling people what I think about things, which aren't even always a big deal.

For example, for me, saying something like "life sucks," is a neutral statement, a simple fact, but other people don't see it that way. They think it's me complaining again. And I do spend a lot of time whining. I don't think it's really so, but I can't help feeling like people perceive me poorly, like some self-centered whiny jerk who manipulates people into feeling sorry for him by making up new crap all the time. I know I'm not like that, but looking back at things I say... well if I didn't know what's going on for me I might assume such things about someone like me. I also hate how often I've posted something in the Personal Issues board, but a lot of times if I don't post things there, I just bottle them up... honestly neither of those options sounds good and I should probably try talking to my friends sometimes, but I feel like I never talk to them about positive things or just random stuff, so it doesn't seem fair to just... use them to vent stuff.

I... ramble a lot and go off on tangents, so I don't know if I really got to the point I was trying to make, but what I'm trying to get at is, after what I've been through, and knowing that other people have a lot of their own crap to worry about, I feel almost like I'm failing people by not just being happy for the good things I do have, if that makes sense. I do have friends, and that wasn't always so... I have games, comics, loads of books... my family are accepting of my... oddities, and no one has ever assaulted me personally even though it happens to people like me in these parts. My dad survived the heart attack he had a couple of years ago, we've survived several vehicle crashes, and we never get any fatal illnesses or wounds... I honestly have a better life than I would have thought I could. So I feel like maybe I should be less bothered by my problems, even though they are numerous and large.

Honestly I can't stand knowing some people have it worse than I do. That's just not fair. People who go through less than I ever have have way too much bad stuff happen to them. Thinking about the ones who have it worse than I do is just... utterly depressing.

[Queen Elsa]

Another reason why I prefer typing rather than actually speaking: I don't stumble on words.

Ironically, when I was trying to record my Q&A video, I said this in order to justify my "uh..." and how often I forget or stumble on words. Guess we're on the same boat here.

Haha. Yeah. I guess so.
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That stinks it ended there. Hopefully it will get a lot farther tomorrow.

[Leviara_Lioness]

I'm thinking my move to Israel just went from second gear to 8th gear just like that, So now we'll be there in 88 days from now between the 19th and 21st of July. Daddy Lion made that decision last night, as we in depth discussed it. I've no prollem with it, just means I'm gonna have to re-arrange my other schedules as I'm caught between 14 AT/Requests and so much more.. had to Update my FAA Journal tonight on the one posted last night of this sudden move time change..This can leave A Lioness so breathless

[Gemini]

It's also one of the things that makes me feel like I oughtn't ever let what I deal with bother me, much less complain about it.

Just because my problems are arguably worse, doesn't mean your problems aren't valid. I absolutely loathe the whole "others have it worse than you" mentality, because I've seen it used to invalidate people's problems. This one time, my friend Alejandro posted on his Facebook about how he was depressed because he and his parents got in this big fight that resulted in them throwing his clothes out on the lawn. His "friend" then went on this long rant about how Alejandro shouldn't feel sad because at least he had a place to stay Like no, having a roof over his head isn't going to magically dissolve his issues with his parents or cure his depression.

It would be like if I broke my arm, went to the doctor and they said "no, we're not going to give you treatment because at least you didn't break your neck!"

This isn't a knock against you, Carl, it's more I have a personal hatred for such sentiments. Your problems are valid, and you have every right to complain about them.

I've always hated this mentality. Sure, there are some people who really are just whiny and looking for attention and need to grow up, but there are also plenty of people out there dealing with depression and other mental illnesses who would rather not vocalize their problems at all simply because they're afraid they'll come off like that, and that's really not okay. People should be able to talk about what's bothering them without fear of being called out or ridiculed. As long as they're being honest about how they feel, it's really not a big deal and they shouldn't be treated like their complaints aren't valid.

As for me, I'm fairly certain I was depressed for about two years during high school; I was quiet and withdrawn, never went to class, always felt down and, well, there were times where I would cry nearly every day, even if nothing in particular had happened. It was just weeks of near-constant down-ness.

I never told anyone about it at the time because I thought I was just being weak and selfish and what-not. But when I look back on it, I really wish I had. Nobody should have to feel completely alone through something like that - it's one of the worst feelings and I'd never wish that upon anyone. And honestly, just because one person's issues are maybe not as bad as someone else's isn't really a good excuse, either.

So no, don't worry. You don't seem like you're fishing for attention. Besides that, cancer is a very legitimate thing to feel worried about. I would also feel very shaken and concerned for my family were I in your shoes.

[Carl]

AWESOME. I have inspiration!

Well, not much yet, and it may not go far, but this is the most useful idea I've had as far as writing my own stuff in quite a while. Time to get some things going.

[Gemini]

^ Go for it, bro! Take it as far as you can.