Julie Skywalker wrote:Regulus wrote:Si Targaryen wrote:Wait until you fall in love. Rationality goes through the window.

I bet you everything I ever had, have, and will have that I'm not the kind of person to do that.
I thought that too, but it happened to me too. I can be rational about other things, sure, but when it comes to that stuff... nope. Like you would not believe some of the things that get me mad or upset, just seriously, it's ridiculous. And many times I know it's ridiculous, so I try to leave it where it lies and not make a fuss, but you know what, it happens anyway. Feels have a way of overriding logic.
Hasn't Spock taught you anything?

There's a difference between falling in love and going totally bats**t crazy. It's a huge difference.
The problem is, everyone in my family falls in love with people who are crazy. Ultimately, this yields to nothing but trouble in the end, which is precisely what I was referring to. Of my generation, I'm one of only two people not to do this. Of the two of us, we're also the most logical, and the most scientific of the entire family, all generations included. My sister doesn't count, because she's still in high school, where everyone is crazy.
It seems like everyone I know gets into all these relationships, but it just doesn't work. People are greedy and stupid and only look after themselves, and they get brought into the family because we're all a bunch of chumps, apparently.
There's also a very big difference between "falling and love," and dedicating your entire life to living with one person for the rest of eternity. In marriage, you're giving away everything you have and placing a bet that it's going to work out. It's not something to rush into just because "you're in love."
Love is sometimes wrong, and more often than not, it does die. That's why this sort of thing happens to begin with.
I remember going to my cousin's wedding, two years ago. It was the only wedding I ever went to. At the time, I could hardly believe it was going to happen, but I accepted it because it was what she wanted.
Two years later? I was right. The wedding was a hasty decision, and her husband wasn't really in love with her at all. Perhaps she was ready for the commitment, but he wasn't.
This isn't really about controlling emotions at all. What I'm saying is that, for a relationship to work, it need two things: it needs to work on a logical level,
and an emotional level.
Everyone always thinks that love alone will solve their problems, but it doesn't work that way. There's more to it than that. You have to
make relationships work, and that requires something far deeper than love. It requires understanding to know how to make compromises, and the will do just that.
If you can't make it work, and if its not convenient to make it work, then love still applies. But it's just that: love. In that case, it's not a functioning relationship, and it could never outlast your own life.
Love is merely an emotion. It's a chemical in the brain. It can control the brain, but that's only because people let it. When people fall in love, they think it's the most important thing to ever happen to them, and they think it'll last forever because their feelings are so strong.
But that's not the way it works. I've just explained why it's not like that.
And, heck, in an odd way, I almost wish I
could experience that sort of deception. However, I'm pretty sure I contemplate things far too much to ever be able to allow such a thing to happen. Why do I say this, you ask? What proof do I have? It's simple. It's because I'm pretty sure that if it could happen, it would have happened to me by now.
Maybe I'll meet the right person sometime in the future, and maybe I'll make an idiot of myself and it will happen. But, notice what I just said, there:
the right person. Being in a relationship with
the right person is as far from irrational as it gets. That is a treasure worth beholding, as long as it's not fool's gold.