I have to agree with Julie here. I mean, I guess I don't have too much experience with dating or trying to meet people, but then even just a year and a half ago I didn't think I would ever be doing it at all. Withdrawing yourself completely and never making friends obviously isn't going to help if you want a relationship, but some of it really is just being in the right place at the right time. I never really set out looking for one - I had a few crushes and I think deep down I wanted to be with someone, but I convinced myself that I would be better off alone, and that if I got a boyfriend I would only end up making the same mistakes as my parents. So I never really looked at it, I just focused on trying to get my life back on track and improving things with myself. Regaining self-confidence and all. I think that was really necessary, because otherwise I wouldn't be where I am today, and have the great friends and the boyfriend that I have. If I'd been worrying over being single and tried to force myself into a relationship, it probably wouldn't have worked out well with the emotional state I was in and everything. Like Flip and Julie both said, you have to love yourself and be comfortable with yourself first; I think that's the most important thing. You can't be dependent on someone else to do that for you.
In any case, though, I never made it a big deal, and in retrospect I'm kind of glad I didn't go searching. When I started talking to Jack we were just friends and had no intention of dating, obviously, but after a little bit it just felt right, I guess. That's the only way I can really describe it. We both already had a strong friendship, similar backgrounds and a lot of things in common, so the attraction was mutual and there wasn't really any hesitation. I've been with him for almost 11 months now and I just have to say that I'm glad things worked out the way they did. It just kinda came naturally and fell into place.
Again, I never have had a breakup or anything so I'm not the most experienced on this topic. I'm just saying that that's how things were for me. You can't really force love, I don't think. You have to let it develop, or it just gets super awkward and uncomfortable.