My Lion King Forum

yeah, i know most of you have heard my self pity story ... but i'll take it from the top just to recap...

First off me and my best friend, who I've known since i was two... who has been with me through all the hardships of my life... who helped me dig my dog's grave... well we went to the grand canyon over the summer, when we got back it's like he fell off the face of the earth i didn't hear from him again until just last week...

I left a message on facebook saying i'm in Florida and loving it... he responds wtf why didn't you invite me... and this hurt me... a lot, it opened my eyes to the fact he's been using me to go on vacations for the past couple of months...

So yeah it gets worse... i responded saying well maybe if you called once every couple of months, or even dropped in to let us know that you're still alive... of course this just made him even madder and he blocked me on facebook...

stay tuned, it gets even worse... he eventually deleted his facebook and i found out he combined it with his girl friends... (god i hate that stupid... w/e) so i friend request him/her

The girl friend, THATS RIGHT.. not him THE GIRLFRIEND recognizes the name and accepts... so i left more messages on his account such as why don't you call me so we can at least attempt to rebuild this broken friendship... and he didn't call so i sent him a letter i wrote through face book...

"it was once said that a best friend was someone you could count on... someone who you could trust...while i was once blind now i can see... this statement is obviously false... I once thought that I could always count on you, I thought that nothing
could between us two... But this is not so...

So all I can say is thank you, yes... thank you for opening my eyes... And thank you for
showing me that the best of friendships can die... Just remember that all the bridges you've burned eventually will keep you trapped off from all sides, As time goes by you'll wonder why your all alone...Yes Thank you for showing Your friendship and good times we had I no longer need to sustain my sanity so I guess I should leave them behind..." <--- was the whole letter minus a few key words...

and yet it still gets worse... he called my house, after i sent the message and said WTF was that all about... so we argued on the phone for another 2 hours until eventually he said, so that's it huh after 15 years... you're just going to stop being friends with me like that? and i told him "That was your choice to make when you decided to drop off the face of the earth..."
he hung up on me...

Now i know this doesn't sound like a good friend ship but... we've had so many good times together, and I've known him for the majority of my life... So, please if i'm seeming on edge, don't push me... I've been in a bad mood since this started last week weather I've shown it or not and i feel like i just lost a huge part of my life... so please, just understand, if i say something that seems rude or obnoxious understand i don't mean it i'm just loosing one of my best friendships ever right now... and it really hurts...

Sounds like a lot of bad communication to me. Don't give up! Try to calm down and maybe get a mutual friend to act as mediator--sounds like nothing is really that wrong between you, just a lot of smoke... I'm confident you'll make up--people can't just stop being friends.

I told ya on MSN basically my feelings, but sorry to hear that, and I hope things work out for the best.

Just a bit of an update, he called me a few minutes ago and azdgari you were right, the friendship while may never be the same... is defenitaly redeemable right now, he called and asked me what does he need to do to make this work out, and i told him be a more active friend... he said i've been busy i know i should call more... i told him it's because of your girlfriend she's been controlling your life since she hooked up with you there have been occasions where you've completely ditched out on hanging out with us because of her... he said he wants to try to make things better, so he's thinking about dumping the girl friend... and i say more power to him, and i also told him if he wants me to break up for him i would... but at the same time i want them to be happy together i just don't want him to give her complete control...

That sucks buddy. Just goes to show you who your true friends are though.

I'd drop him as if he was a stinking turd that somehow found its way onto my hand. People change, friendship doesnt last forever.